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Thursday, August 21, 2008
Kaybri's Struggles
Last week marked 3 months since Brody died. The past week or so has been quite difficult on our family. We've all been a little edgy and easily discouraged. I guess that is to be expected. The hardest part of all is watching Kaybri struggle with everything. She has been easily upset the past week. She goes through unexplained crying spells and has a hard time leaving mine or Joss' side. Its really heartbreaking to see. The worst part is that I have no idea how to help her. We have always been sure to discuss Brody with her often to keep his memory alive. In his room, his bed is still made up with the same blankets as the night he died. Kaybri has asked me if she can sit in his bed for a while and I let her in hopes that it will help her feel some peace. She frequently asks to go to the cemetery to visit his grave and so, of course, we do. I'm just not sure what to do for her poor little broken heart. Help! :(
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Your doing everything right. It's just going to take time for her like it is for you. Maybe everyday you could let her talk, sing, pray with, or read a book to his picture. Make it part of a daily tradition to help ease the pain. All you can do is give all of the extra love she needs and she will eventually understand. She is only 2. Give her time.
Also, when I was little, my Aunt Billie died and my Grandmother pointed at a very bright star and we named it Billie. So we would go outside in the evenings and talk to the star. I'm 33 and I still look at the same star and think about her. Sounds corney, but it helped me out when I was little.
Don't get frustrated or discouraged. You can only do so much. Again, time will help.
I will continue to pray for your healing.
Kaci
I agree, you are doing everything right. It is so hard, helping Kaden understand was one of my biggest worries. It is so hard to help someone so young understand when it is hard to understand ourselves. Every night before we go to bed, Kaden picks a book out for himself and one for Ava. We use the same picture every night (which is totally worn out) and read the stories to both Kaden and Ava. Our prayers with Kaden include Ava and then we blow a kiss to Heaven for Ava to catch. It is his routine, he has it down packed. The majority of the nights he "sings" her "You Are My Sunshine" while holding her picture. We explain it often to him that Ava is in Heaven and he too often talks about her. Someone else gave me a wonderful idea as well...give your daughter something of Brody's from Brody, such as a favorite stuffed animal or blanket.
Like I said, you are doing all you can and have great ways of helping her remember her brother. It must be really difficult for a 2 year old to understand...and even harder as parents to explain it to her. As long as you continue to talk about Brody and let her sit on his bed and take her to his grave she will begin to "understand." Hang in there. Thinking of you all.
I just want to let you two know you are wonderful parents! Hang in there...we are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers!
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